I’ve started to get tired. Like really tired. Deep down in the core of me tired. Some days I am suppressing a deep desire to curl up in bed at 4pm. For me this isn’t a “I’ve had a tough day, or week” tired, I know I can shrug that off and get on with things. This is something different. This is that start of the year and the beginning of the term and, in theory, I should be a little more “with it”. Did I mention I was tired?
So I’m doing what every good introvert does… I’ve started pulling my life apart in my head, looking at every aspect I can, asking questions of myself as to why this might be. Honestly, I think I probably know the answer but even though I completely trust my intuition on most things I hate to just go with first thoughts but rather like to take a step back take a wider view and think everything through. That’s part of an Introverts nature I guess; to be constantly stepping back trying to take in as much information as I can.
So all day in the back of my mind I have been thinking through all of this looking at each day and each evening, each weekend, each area of my life. Looking at what gives my life energy and what is energy draining. This has been coupled with the variety of conversations with my wife over the last few weeks where we have been asking these same kind of questions of us as a family:
- What are we doing?
- What do we have to do?
- what do we love doing?
- what do we feel we should be doing?
- What do we want to be doing?
- What are we doing that gives life?
- What are we doing that drains life?
These are so important questions to ask when considering individual and family balance. I also have to recognise what are things that are non-negotiable in my life. For each of us we may have a variety of common things and others will have unique.
Whatever you do and whatever you fill your time with, it is important to be asking these questions.
Whatever conclusions I/we come to about our involvement in each area of life I personally need to remember one thing: I am an INFJ and I need to replenish myself with time and space. This Myers Briggs statement reminds me everything I should be considering right now to ensure I am at my best:
Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.
To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.